People do what people actually want to do. They would do what they wish to do. This simple statement holds itself to be true in 99% of people’s lives. If a person really wants to do a certain thing, and they have their heart set on it, then more than likely they will accomplish it. This especially holds true in a lot of relationships you may encounter, if you haven't already encountered it.
I remember reading somwhere that, "When someone doesn't show up when they say they will, reduce their communication that it almost turns nil and you are the only one initiating, ignores your communication and emotions, hurt and be cold and indifferent, always cancels plans, forgets things said, doesn't notice half things being said or just doesn't come to talk even though they have ample opportunity to, chances are they really don't want to be a part of your life / they really don't want you in their life."
Realizing and accepting this may be a very hard pill to swallow, but is essential for ones happiness. To combat this it is essential that you cut the people out of your life who make no time for you when they have the opportunities to. Be formal and reduce your communication to the extent they reduced. Doing so will free your mind eventually, and will also free your calendar.
Now you have time to spend with those who want to spend that time with you as much as you want with them. We must embrace change and let the things go in our lives that are broken, and that have no possible way of being fixed. Sometimes trying to fix things that are broken would itself hurt in first place and it is not healthy way of doing things. There is always a time for full stop.
You ultimately can't make someone make time for you, so it is imperative that you spend time with those who has no qualms in giving you their time and who are as enthusiastic as you are in talking to them.
If someone wants to be a part of your life, they'll make an effort to be in it. Don't bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay. I know it is easy said than done.
It’s important you take efforts to sustain your communication but at one point if the other person just really doesn't want you just can't do anything about it. Being a friend also means one should understand silence but silence propagates itself the longer nothing is said the harder you will find anything to say. I believe in giving people what they like the most even if it means it has to be silence. :) It is always good to give when asked better to give unasked through understanding
I remember reading somwhere that, "When someone doesn't show up when they say they will, reduce their communication that it almost turns nil and you are the only one initiating, ignores your communication and emotions, hurt and be cold and indifferent, always cancels plans, forgets things said, doesn't notice half things being said or just doesn't come to talk even though they have ample opportunity to, chances are they really don't want to be a part of your life / they really don't want you in their life."
Realizing and accepting this may be a very hard pill to swallow, but is essential for ones happiness. To combat this it is essential that you cut the people out of your life who make no time for you when they have the opportunities to. Be formal and reduce your communication to the extent they reduced. Doing so will free your mind eventually, and will also free your calendar.
Now you have time to spend with those who want to spend that time with you as much as you want with them. We must embrace change and let the things go in our lives that are broken, and that have no possible way of being fixed. Sometimes trying to fix things that are broken would itself hurt in first place and it is not healthy way of doing things. There is always a time for full stop.
You ultimately can't make someone make time for you, so it is imperative that you spend time with those who has no qualms in giving you their time and who are as enthusiastic as you are in talking to them.
If someone wants to be a part of your life, they'll make an effort to be in it. Don't bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay. I know it is easy said than done.
It’s important you take efforts to sustain your communication but at one point if the other person just really doesn't want you just can't do anything about it. Being a friend also means one should understand silence but silence propagates itself the longer nothing is said the harder you will find anything to say. I believe in giving people what they like the most even if it means it has to be silence. :) It is always good to give when asked better to give unasked through understanding
point taken. but sadly, in friendships, mostly for women, after marriage, life changes and a new life with new friends begins. Keeping in touch with old friends will happen, no doubt, but priorities change, family and children take precedence, and so responding to messages and returning calls will be tougher. here is where social networking is a life saver. :) But a a true friend, no matter how long he/she takes to respond to your calls or messages, will surely respond.
ReplyDeleteAgreed but as you say a true friend no matter what would definitely get back :)
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