Some people are so small hearted that they can only care for their happiness, their family and reciprocate only to their set of people. Yes doing to all your own set of people matters. And yes I do agree on concepts like 'your happiness you should take care' , priorities etc etc. Am not debating or disagreeing with any of that. Even I care extra bit for my set of people. I don't deny. There is a special place for the close ones in our life. But what about others who fall out of this circle? The ones who care for you a lot without any conditions attached?
If you can't give consistent courteous affection to them at the least don't hurt them or humiliate them with comparisons. Don't trivialise their affection and efforts by showing how capable you are in throwing it away.
They completely understand you have your set of people and you do not need their affection but they still give because unlike you its in their nature. If you can at the least respect it.
Before one does an act one should assess.
Would you do this to your parents siblings spouse or your so called closest circle of friends?
For instance say you ask your colleague or acquaintance to wait for you at some place for some work? You know they would definitely come and wait
And you are caught up in your little world of happiness? Would you even forget that they would be waiting? Won't you care that it gets lonely to wait and they have to know what's your plan?. For heaven sake you had asked them to wait or come and then you conveniently forget till they call you up several times? Should you not give a small message or call to tell them. Don't these come under basic humanity? Will you leave your sister or spouse at lonely place and enjoy elsewhere?
Or take any other simple act like
Simple act of acknowledging the wishes they give you? Taking your eyes off phone or laptop when they are giving you some information. Asking them how they are when you have found them sick etc. Sending wishes on your own once a while. Are these basic courteous acts meant only for close circle?
It's ok when all the above are occasional but what justification can one give when it becomes a habit? Isn't courtesy and mutual respect important?
Humanity don't need reasons to enter. It is something you can do in simple day to day affairs. How shrunk the heart of those that can care only for their happiness and their set of people...! They don't even seem to care about the amount of hurt they confer on others by their insensitive comments.
Before doing anything to anyone think whether you would do that to your own people.
It does not come as a surprise that some are small hearted to give affection and reciprocation to only their set of people and don't care to reciprocate to others who give affection and care.
What surprises me is that some cannot even treat others outside their circle with humanity, respect and courtesy.
Some people hurt you in their happiness or for their happiness. Both are ignorant and selfish. Presuming both are not intentional. It's cruel if it is intentional but I prefer to give benefit of doubt to such people and assume that it's unintentional
What do you do when you meet such people ? Behave like them to them? Of course not. Then there would be no difference between you and them. Give them unconditional affection with the hope that though they might not return it to you that would someday create a spark in them and they would not do what they did to you to another soul. You would contribute in stopping the pain waves they are creating and that's what world needs. Unconditional love and affection. Not only to those that treat you well but even to those who don't
When you send out love and unconditional affection God ensures you get it in return. May not be from the same source in which you invested but as you sow so shall you reap. There would be someone who would treat you well as you deserve
Love the ones who treat you right
Pray for the ones who don't
Pray for the ones who don't
Have a blessed day
PS: thanks to the cool small hearted folks I meet in my day to day life. You inspire me to write
and you test my ability to give unconditional love and affection. My prayers and loads of affection to you guys. In my opinion you need them the most because your hearts are shrunk and they need to expand. May you be blessed to give affection and humanity to all
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